The love relationship of modern people has always been full of twists and turns, and there are fewer and fewer examples of being able to go to the end and grow old together. From a psychological point of view, it is never easy to study which factors affect the quality of romantic relationships. The main reason is that romantic relationships are too complicated and are affected by many factors at the same time. Under the review of modern psychology, which focuses on the study of human behavior with scientific and empirical methods, there are three factors that have relatively consistent evidence to show that they are related to maintaining a good love relationship, namely, a person's attachment style (attachment style), relationship between Mutual equality and self-disclosure in communication. The type of attachment The so-called attachment, in psychological terms, refers to the bond between the baby and the caregiver (usually the mother), and this bond can be good or bad.
[Note] Quite simply, psychological theory holds that the quality of the relationship between each individual as a child and his mother causes them to develop a different worldview in relation to relationship building, especially in the sense of trust. literally. For example, do you believe that others really love you, do you believe in the attitude of others when they are in a relationship with you, do you believe that you are worthy of being loved, etc. Some people will ask, can the relationship between a child and mother be bad? Doesn't every mother love her child very much? There are two levels to understand here. First: Sometimes due to various reasons of life, illness and personal, a mother may not have the energy to love her child. For example, a mother is busy all day long and does not have the energy to love her child. Another example is an unmarried pregnant mother who is not mentally prepared to welcome her child, so she may think that the child is a burden, and such a mother may not love her child. Second; : The kind of love from the mother may be a mistake or a love that is not enough, such as over-indulgence, over-protection, etc. Under the different dynamics of the infant and caregiver, there are several Shadow Making attachment styles, including Secure Attachment and several insecure attachments, including Anxious/Anxious Attachment. ambivalent.
Attachment), Avoidant Attachment, and Disorganized-disoriented Attachment. Babies' attachment style affects how adults feel in romantic relationships According to various psychological theories, the influence of the type of attachment that a baby develops extends into adulthood, affecting behavior and thinking in a romantic relationship. People who develop secure attachment in childhood also have positive and trusting attitudes toward themselves and others in adulthood; they have lower levels of resistance and anxiety in interpersonal relationships. A good balance between the pursuit of autonomy and dependence on others, a good degree of spiritual freedom, easier, comfortable, and successful in establishing intimacy. More about this source textSource text required for additional translation information Send feedback Side panels